Finding the Right Massage Therapist: It’s About Feeling Safe, Not Knowing Jargon
- Jonny Wilkinson
- Apr 30
- 2 min read
Booking a massage can feel nerve-wracking. You might worry about picking the ‘right’ therapist—someone who truly puts you at ease. After all, massage isn’t just about technique; it’s about trust. Your body needs to feel safe enough to relax, and that starts with the person you choose.
What Really Matters When Choosing a Therapist?
You Feel Deeply Safe With Them
This is non-negotiable. If your gut says “I trust this person”, that’s more important than any fancy qualification. You shouldn’t have to talk yourself into feeling comfortable.
Your Nervous System Trusts Them
Stress lives in the body. If your muscles tense up just thinking about the session, something’s off. The right therapist will make you feel calmer, not more on edge.
They’re Present, Steady, and Attuned
A good therapist listens—not just to what you say, but to what your body isn’t saying out loud. They don’t rush, they don’t seem distracted, and they respond to your cues.
It’s Okay to Pick Someone Who Feels Familiar
If they remind you of your favourite aunt, uncle, or a calming teacher, that’s a great sign. Warmth and grounding energy matter more than an encyclopaedic knowledge of modalities.
You Don’t Need to Speak ‘Massage’
You shouldn’t need a glossary of terms to choose a therapist. Words like myofascial release or trigger point therapy aren’t as important as: Do I feel heard? Do I feel safe enough to let go?
How to Know If It’s a Good Fit
Start Small – Book a shorter session first. See how your body responds.
Trust Your Instincts – If something feels off, it’s okay to try someone else.
It’s Not About ‘Perfect’ – The right therapist isn’t necessarily the most experienced or the most technical—it’s the one whose presence helps you unwind.
At the end of the day, massage is about receiving. You don’t have to overthink it. If you feel safe, you’re already on the right track.
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